By Rachel Hollis
A Review By Tom Kennedy
This is an exciting book that is at the #1 spot on Christian best sellers.* It is primarily for those women who are over-involved and feeling guilty about not being the best (or even good enough) in today’s world of marriage, parenting, and business. Rachel Hollis came from an abusive background and her way to compensate was to work harder than anyone else. She has had tremendous success in her marriage, parenting and work life. Yet she had to go into therapy to learn to let go of the perfectionism that was also destroying those three areas of her life. Rachel deals with some important Christian issues about self-care in an enjoyable biography/teaching manner. If you are struggling with the similar issues, this book may be good for you.
Statements I liked from the book:
- I recognized a great truth: if I wanted a better life than the one I’d been born into, it was up to me to create it. 6
- Slow down your ‘yes’. Only commit to things you know you can accomplish and because they’re incredibly important to you. P. 18
- I struggle to celebrate or enjoy any victory, no matter how big, because I’m always mindful of something bigger I could be doing instead. P. 22
- I did a lot of therapy. Then I did some more. 29
- …just because you believe it, doesn’t mean it is true for everyone. P. 40
- People will treat you with as much or as little respect as you allow them to…. P. 51
- I committed to my orgasm. 79. (If you are married, this chapter is worth the price of the book.)
- Constantly castigating myself for my choices wasn’t fair to my children, and it definitely wasn’t fair to me. P. 97
- …the most beautiful things in my life were never on my to-do list. 110
- Remember Philippians 1:6. “Being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it to completion.” P. 122
- SOMEONE ELSE’S OPINION OF ME IS NONE OF MY BUSINESS. P. 146
- Rachel is high energy. Most people are not high energy. We should not feel guilty or apologize for not being able to accomplish the number of things that high energy people can.
- I am also concerned that involvement in the church was barely mentioned in this book. According to the Bible our earthly terminus is the local church. Of course, much of Rachel’s abuse came from church leaders, but the local church is very important for the earthly survival of real Christianity.
I give this book four stars out of five. If you are a wife, mother, and work outside the home, I recommend it highly.
Reviewed by Tom Kennedy, Ed.D.
*Evangelical Book Publishers Association: top 50 Christian Bestsellers, September 2018.