Uninvited: Living Loved When You Feel Less Than, Left Out, and Lonely

By Lysa TerKeurst

A Review By Lysa TerKeurst

This is TerKeurst’s second Christian best seller. She was a New York Times bestselling author of The Best Yes.  In Uninvited she focuses on how women deal with rejection based on their past abuse and/or rejections.  I have not read her first book, so my review will be based solely on reading this one (paperback version).


Statements in the book I liked:

  • No matter how saved, sanctified, mature, and free we are, there are misalignments embedded in our souls. 3
  • Negative self-talk was rejection from my past that I had allowed to settle into the core of who I am. P. 6
  • The mind feasts on what it is focused on. P. 24
  • Jesus doesn’t participate in the rat race. He’s into the slower rhythms of life like abiding, delighting, and dwelling…..P. 37
  • They say time heals—and I think this can be true—but only if that is the goal here: healing. P. 68
  • I can’t fully continue to fully embrace God while rejecting His ways. P. 80
  • No amount of outside achievement fixes inside hurts. P. 98
  • And you know what felt like an utter betrayal? God could fix this, but He didn’t. p. 105
  • One rejection is not a projection of future failures. P. 130
  • …six out of ten women say they feel like they want to change something about their lives at least occasionally after looking at social media. P. 152
  • Even if life handed me love, I suspiciously waited for it to be snatched away. 195.


My concerns about the book:

  • Some people may be full of God’s grace and still be super sensitive.
  • There is a lack of emphasis on God healing through involvement in the church.
  • I also wish more was said about going to a licensed Christian counselor. Many people refuse to share their hurts until they go to a professional.
  • The bonus chapter was very scattered.


My Take: This book is a good inspirational read and has some good inspirational suggestions, but it is less step-by-step practical that hurting readers might need.

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